Regardless of what the media, the church, or politicians say, my sexuality is not defined by my sexual behaviors or by the size of my penis. I am attracted to men; I like men; my desire for other men doesn't stem from an erection but from the intimacy I have with men that I can't have with women. For the other men reading this who enjoy loving other men, you probably can relate to the experience of coming to grips with the attraction you felt for the same gender. I was 12 the first time I kissed another boy; I was 14 when I came to the realization that these feelings I felt toward other boys were not accidental or experimental. Our society has been saturated with the idea that sex sells.
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On the verge of my 37th birthday I celebrate a little over a year of partnership with a man 26 years my senior. This is not a new phenomenon for me—coupling with older men. It is a preference that kept me in the closet until I felt I was safe enough to express it at I had never been with another man sexually before then.
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In his excellent biography of art curator and collector Sam Wagstaff , Philip Gefter notes how the rise of the gay rights movement in the early s occurred at the same time as the growing interest in photography as an equal among the arts. Once he was turned on to photography by his lover Robert Mapplethorpe — whose career he also helped support and mythologize — Wagstaff amassed one of the most important private collections of photography, which he used to promote the art form before he sold to the Getty Museum in a few years before his death from AIDS-related complications to cement its importance. Or why it continues to hold us spellbound.
But in the last year, that has all changed. Same age, super cool, and is out [as gay]. For some reason, I have found myself strangely attracted to him. I can imagine sending this note was not easy and that it required a lot of courage to write all of this out in the first place. The simple answer to what you have asked is yes, a straight man can fall in love with a gay man.