I wrote a blog post several years ago in response to an email I received from a young, unmarried woman. This is an updated version of that blog post. I hope it is helpful not only for unmarried women who may be in a toxic Christian dating relationship, but also for women who are already married to a Christian narcissist. About a year ago you did a few posts about what guys and gals are looking for and NOT looking for in relationships. After following your blog for the last year, and reading through the many comments, I see that you are not alone in naming abuse and getting recognition for what it is.
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During those crucial first few dates, there are certain things that we all do that tip the scales in our favor just a little bit. And there are subtle things that the person we're on a date with can do that weirdly speak disproportionate volumes to our overall impression of them; a gesture, a comment, or even simply the way they carry themselves. These are small glimpses into our deeper undercurrent of crazy, and if you don't know what you're looking for, you might miss them. So, in the interest of informing ourselves, I asked a few of my girlfriends what the biggest red flags are — even in the first few dates — that let you know it's just not going to work out in the long term.
Dating Red Flags
Most women will spend most of their lives waiting on a man to get his act together. Through the ups and downs, good and bad, we remain patient. Even if the bad times out weigh the good, we still find a way to hold on to hope. We have faith in the relationship and believe that everything is going to work out no matter how bad things look.
T his past year I celebrated my 20 th wedding anniversary with my lovely wife. It is amazing how time goes by and when I was given this article title to write, I was instantly intrigued. This is for at least two reasons. First, I think it is fun to look back and remember what it was like to be in the dating world even if it was many years ago.